by Melissa Telles, I B.A. English
“You are boring,” is a phrase feared by most; a phrase that gives rise to insecurity of thought, a phrase that makes you stop. Three words that can affect you more than any insult.
Therein lies the power of the words and language that we constantly use to put people down. The phrase “you’re boring” in particular is exceptionally brutal—it makes you question your identity. The word boring pulls you into a downward spiral of reflecting on your own personality and likability. These “low-key insults” are what spark insecurities, low self- esteem and hostility. To combat this, defence mechanisms and facades are put up because no one wants to be called dull and boring. These “low-key insults” destroy individuality and abolish personality.
That said, what does one classify as boring—knowledge? A class topper on first impression is immediately classified as boring and unable to have fun. Those eye-rolls, exasperated sighs and mumbles of “so boring” never go unnoticed—simple gestures can hurt, and will affect not only the person that is being rebuked, but also others who may want to speak up but cower in fear of judgement. Personally, I don’t see a problem in having a brain and utilizing it, so if knowledge is the criterion for being a boring person, I’ll gladly take it.
The proverb “sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me” has always been confusing to me because physical pain fades with time, but callous words can hurt your feelings and damage your self-worth. If you ask me, words hurt more than a thousand stones thrown at me. Toxic stereotypes are reason the world still encourages prejudice and discrimination. Next time you call someone boring, take a second, two seconds or ten seconds to think about how your words may translate to someone else. Compliment them instead, use kind words and restrict yourself from saying “you are boring.”